Disclaimer: many of the things I mentioned here are not my own words but I took them from Jarrid Wilson. Here in this post I made a mix of his words and my own. I will link his video at the end. I thought that this is a very important topic but I wasn’t able to say something concrete by myself, so I took his video as an inspiration.
Are you in a season of singleness? I know, I know I said it…oh goodness who would ever want to hear this word? It can sound even scary. Nobody really wants to talk about it. Everyone craves for a relationship, so why should we talk about singleness?
Singleness is so serious but no one really knows how important it is. It’s the foundation of every kind of relationship, especially the couple relationship. Did you know that? Did you know that in order to have a good and healthy relationship you need a stable and solid foundation? And did you know that in the season of your singleness you will define your future relationship?
If you think that you don’t know much about SINGLENESS don’t you worry, I got you. I just want to say that there are a lot of videos on Youtube that talk about it. You can find some of my favorite sermons about it at the end of this post. Don’t miss it!! 🙂
As a young girl I think that while we grow up we don’t get the opportunity to hear about this topic very often, indeed no one talks about this neither in churches. We should learn about singleness especially during our teenage years. Adolescence is the period of insecurities and the time when the world’s thinking can influence us the most.
The misleading belief of this world
This world is giving you the wrong view on how you should face/see your season of singleness. The world is trying to make you believe that if you are single you are not long worthy. The world is saying to you that if you are single there’s something wrong with you.
This world puts relationships and marriage on a pedestal and says that those are the goals of your life. “Our” world turned marriage, something that used to be holy, into a hobby. But let me tell you the truth… the REAL goal is to BECOME MORE LIKE JESUS!!!
But what the Bible says about singleness?
Maybe you didn’t know this, but you’ll never find in the Bible a single verse that says that you need to find your special someone to fulfill God’s purpose of your life. Indeed the Bible gives us examples of different people who did AWESOME deeds, and they were SINGLE. Paul, Ruth, Martha, John the baptist and Jesus himself( of course you can find other people in the Bible). Those people were all single and they fulfilled what God prepared for their lives.
Now I’m telling you that God can use you to make amazing things, even if you are single. And God has a plan ready for you, whether you’re single or not. Remember that your ultimate goal is to become more and more like Jesus. God sees you and He cares about you, it doesn’t matter to Him if you’re in a relationship or not.
Now I just want to tell you that some people are called to be single and that’s totally fine. As I wrote above here, some single people did extraordinary works and so you will do when you will find your way in Jesus Christ.
But what do you have to do in your season of singleness?
I promise you that you can find satisfaction in your singleness, you have so many things to do and you don’t even realize it. You have so much time in your hands so take advantage of it, don’t waste your time and set yourself up to have a successful life. Build up your carree, travel the world, do anything that you desire. You don’t have to think about someone else and you are not limited.
Maybe there will be people in your life that will press you but don’t rush things, God has his timing… be patient. Your season of singleness is one of the most important phases of your life, try to enjoy every single bit of it. And remember that you don’t have to satisfy people, you need to find your purpose.
Now I’d like to ask you some questions. Those questions will help you so please be honest with yourself. You don’t have to prove anything to me or to the world, just be true to yourself.
- Are you reflecting Jesus in your everyday life?
- Are you an inspiration for other people?
- Do other people look at you and desire the same relationship that you have with God?
- Do you have self control?
- Are you a patient persone?
- Do you protect yourself from sexual immorality?
- Are you living a life of respect?
- Are you making wise decisions?
If even one of your answers was negative you should work on it. I’m not judging you, indeed I’m telling you that you can transform what is not going right in your life. I’m here to tell you that you have an opportunity now to live a worthy life. As I said before, don’t waste your precious time and take action now!
Use your season of singleness to earn a respectable life
One thing I’d also like to tell you is that you need to live a life that is respectable, because respect is not given but is earned. So if you think you lack on that, work it out now.
During this season of singleness are you building your reputation? Do people around you respect you? Are you the type of person that other people see as a catch and they are afraid that someone else may get you fist? You should want to be a person who has integrity and a good reputation, someone who is honest and respectful. “STEP INTO WHO GOD WANTS YOU TO BE BEFORE YOU START SEARCHING FOR WHO GOD HAS CALLED YOU TO BE WITH!” (by Jarrid Wilson)
Don’t let your status of singleness be an obstacle for your success. Don’t use alcohol as a comfort, it will never fulfill the “void” you have, indeed it will destroy you. Please, don’t even try to change your status of singleness because you need that, you need this season. You need to be fixed, by God, during this time. Because there’s no relationship that will ever heal your brokenness. Marriage won’t be the answer to your problems. And if you don’t solve them now that you’re single, you will drag down your future relationship. So that’s why it is so important to understand the importance of the season of singleness.
The real satisfaction in singleness is found at the foot of the cross. There you will find peace, contentment, your purpose, your calling. Singleness is an opportunity for you to be more like Jesus, you are called to live a life to reflect Jesus not the world.
My fav sermons about singleness
As I promised at the beginning of this post, I’m going to share here some of my favorite sermons I’ve heard about the season of singleness.
- Single & Satisfied by Jarrid Wilson: https://youtu.be/SZfSEcO64Z0
- Relationship Goals by Michael Todd: https://youtu.be/H7h5BHax06c (for this one there’s a whole series that you can check out, I just linked the first video)
- Single And Secure by Rich Wilkerson Jr.: https://youtu.be/1NrdPw5vj7I
There are many others out there but those are the ones I watched for now. If you watched different videos, you can comment and let me know below!
